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If a life change comes at a time when we are especially exhausted or unguarded, a life quake can happen. The occurrences that look simple but cause huge responses may also be disruptors. In Lisa’s case, she left her occupation, not because of the coworkers’ rumors, the rumors triggered her movement. If lots of life changes happen simultaneously, this may cause life quakes as well. Frequently, not only one problem comes at a time, more than one problem comes at the same time. Think about the case of a man who is talked for the Life Story Project that is fired from his job and learned that his wife was cheating at the same time. Life quake is caused by breaking off of all the things owned at the same time. Life quakes are frightening and bewildering in their build. However, there also present chances to reconsider our lives and what is significant for us. Chapter 5 - Generally, we do not have the power to change devastating events, but we have the power to decide which action we will take in answer to them. The reason for life quakes to be so bewildering is that they shake the life tales that we tell inside us. Humans who give importance to being a member of a strong family bond can feel damaged by the separation of their parents. People who feel honored about their successes in their work-life can feel the big damage when they are dismissed from their occupation. We should develop skills in storytelling and the creation of tales that involve the progressions in our lives, to deal with a life quake. How can we make this happen? In the beginning, we should understand what motivates us. What are the things that induce our feelings of wealth, significance, and value in life? The motives will be different for everyone. Fiedler came up with the “A-B-C of meaning” with his study. A is for “autonomy”, B is for “belonging”, and C is for “cause”. Certain people care about autonomy the most; having the power to direct their lives is the most crucial thing for them in decision-making. Feeling like a part of a group is the most crucial for some other people. Finally, participating in a bigger picture and giving for a better world are the motivators for people who are driven by a cause and what makes them feel their significance in life. Life quakes happen at the core of the things that motivate us and push us to reconsider our decisions. For instance, a lead ballerina that is proud of her independence and aspiration had to go through a transition in her profession after an accident. Currently, she found the meaning of her life in assisting other people and became a mentor. A mom who devoted her life to her children to grow them is forced to get a job in a different place after a life quake that shows her that she is not happy with what she is doing. Besides, a man left his propitious profession in country music to be a clergyman. These changes are called “shape-shifting”. Rather than struggling to turn back to the previous life and get rid of a life quake, one can select to change the path one will follow and completely change where their lives will go. Chapter 6 - Ceremonies allow us to give up on our previous lives that we are letting go of. We all may face catastrophes. For instance, having a car crash is very likely. What is different a lot is the way of responding to these types of crises. While some get angry and cannot move on after such an incident, others find the motivation to start a movement for safe roads and make it their career. A car crash is a disruptor that we do not have power on. Nobody wants such a transformation in their life tales. However, we have the power to select the meaning of this transformation in our lives. To perceive disruptive events as eloquent changes, we need lots of exercises. Fortunately, there are some techniques that we can use to become an expert in coping with changes. The first technique to learn is acquiescence. In general, we refuse and endure when we face life quakes. We want to stay in the life that we know very well. However, in the end, we need to face the truth and stop thinking about the world in our thoughts. Oddly enough, our thoughts conform less to the real world than our bodies are. A woman from Fiedler’s research was getting migraine attacks until the time she quits her awful job. Another example was feeling something weird about her body until she learns the notion of being transgender. Acquiescence can cause abrupt enlightenment or a chain of slow comprehension. No matter how you accomplish it, this is always the same that admitting an occurrence intuitively gives power. You do not think over questions such as reasons for an occurrence or how to get rid of it anymore. Besides, it gives you the power to see opportunities that you may not observe while you are whining and standing out against transitions. It should be noted that acquiescence does not mean brushing all the emotions away and act like abruptly all is good. Changes bring bitter feelings such as fright, sorrow, and disgrace. Exercising acquiescence is also about letting these emotions be felt. One does not have to brush away the sorrow of losing a loved one or push the disgrace of previous errors down inside. Acknowledging the emotions and feeling bad for losses are important parts of a long farewell when you leave previous occurrences and accept a great life change. Chapter 7 - Every huge change includes a chaotic midpoint that one feels so lost. How to accept losses? The long farewell includes designing our ceremonies to remember the previous life that we cannot have back. Ceremonies are crucial pieces for signing changes and making sense of them. They accelerate acquiescence and let us combine our histories with what is waiting for us. Some ceremonies may include signing the transitions on the body. For instance, an old fascist selected to wrap every despotic tattoo on his body with devout signs to show his change. Some others select to have piercings or crazy hair after the end of their marriage. Social occasions are significant types of ceremonies that allow people to mention happy events and milestones in addition to grieving for what is lost. Celebrations can sign a start of a change such as changing gender or giving birth. These can be also used for marking a finish such as getting a doctoral degree or curing of cancer. Items can also be significant in ceremonies. An ex-captive and a war veteran told their tales of putting their unclean shoes in an apparent place in their houses. Old shoes were signs of old occurrences they want to accept, although they would not prefer to go back. People also may feel like they are in a place or with a person when they wear special jewelry. When there is sorrow or loss, it is for sure that ceremonies become more significant. It is a finding of priest Larry when he found out that his first kid was born dead. In the synagogue, ceremonies for dead babies or miscarriages did not exist, so there was no way for parents to describe their sorrow in public. Therefore, Larry started to design ceremonies for himself and prepared a paper, and suggested how priests could be beneficial for people that experiencing the same thing. Ceremonies can show us part of the chaos we have inside. We also find opportunities to engage with the general society with their help. Acknowledging bitter feelings and designing our ceremonies enable us to begin acknowledging transitions in our lives. In the following lines, we will understand that the next step is getting rid of every useless piece of our lives. Chapter 8 - The creativity of us can assist us to design a new section in a change. Like snakes that leave their old skins behind to allow the growth of healthier, shinier skin, we should want to leave our past lives behind in a change and give ourselves time to be bewildered and lost entirely. The significance of being lost is realized by any prime spiritual tale and fairy story. Christ was thrown into the desert before his great enlightenment and Mohamed became wise on the top of a mountain. Red Riding Hood had her life-shaping experience that she might not experience otherwise while she was lost in the woods. If we truly would like to adopt change, we need to adopt the chaotic midpoint in which we get rid of the previous life but not get into the new life yet. At this stage, we are pushed to get rid of old personalities or faith that no longer suit us. In addition to established practices that came from previous lives that we do not adopt anymore. The spill may make us feel helpless and sensitive since the feelings of loss and uncertainty of our individuality. At the same time, it provides an area to do novel things. How to withstand the hard component of change? Some do it by shaping their lives in a different way such as joining a scheme that includes twelve stages for quitting alcohol or participating in a lecture. Getting a daily habit such as writing, planting, or wandering outside may also be preferred by others. These habitual things may make you step on your feet while dealing with major transitions. While some prefer planned solutions, being independent may also be preferred by others. A perfect way to discover loss is traveling the world and, in real terms, walking through exciting adventures. A period of unknown times can be seen by some people as a chance to see their limits and experience new things such as taking drugs, flirting with various people, or joining parties. These types of planned solutions may be crucial pieces in the change process. The chaotic midpoint may make you feel that you are entirely lost; anything that binds you to your personality is lost. Behind the curtains of these chaotic times, there is a fresh start. Chapter 9 - Creating new tales that include our life changes is required.