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16 Psychological Tricks to Immediately Make People Like You More and Fall in Love With You It can be difficult to explain why you like someone. Perhaps it's their silly smile, perhaps it's their incisive wit, perhaps it's just that they're fun to be around. You simply enjoy them. However, such replies are typically unsatisfactory for scientists, who have spent years attempting to identify the precise variables that compel one person to another. Some of their most fascinating findings are compiled below. Continue reading for information that will help you build stronger relationships more quickly and shed new light on the friendships you currently have. 1. Copy the person you're with This tactic, known as mirroring, is subtly imitating another person's behaviour. Try to mimic the motions, facial expressions, and body language of the person you are conversing with. Researchers from New York University first identified the "chameleon effect" in 1999, which is when people unintentionally imitate one another's behaviour. That mimicking encourages liking 72 men and women were given a task to complete with a partner by the researchers. While researchers recorded the encounters, the partners (who worked for the researchers) either imitated the other participant's behaviour or did not. The participants were asked to rate how much they loved their partners after the interaction. Indeed, when their spouse imitated their behaviour, participants were more likely to claim that they liked their companion. 2. Spend more time with the folks you want to become friends with. The mere-exposure effect states that people have a tendency to like others who are acquainted to them. Psychologists at the University of Pittsburgh had four women pretend to be students in a college psychology class as one illustration of this occurrence. Different women attended class on different occasions. Male students showed a larger affinity for the woman they had seen more frequently in class when experimenters showed them images of the four women, even though they had not interacted with any of them. 3. Express gratitude to others People will draw conclusions about your personality based on the adjectives you choose to describe others. The term "spontaneous trait transference" refers to this phenomena. This impact was shown, according to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, even when participants were aware that the attributes in question didn't apply to the individuals being discussed. Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project, asserts that "anything you say about other people effects how people view you." People will relate to you as sincere and nice if you speak highly of another person. Conversely, if you consistently criticise individuals behind their backs, your friends will start to think the same thing about you. 4. Make an effort to show joy. When people are significantly impacted by the emotions of others, this is referred to as emotional contagion. A study from Ohio University and the University of Hawaii claims that humans are capable of instinctively sensing the emotions of those around them. According to the authors of the study, this may be because we frequently replicate the motions and expressions of others, which causes us to experience feelings that are similar to theirs. Try to convey cheerful feelings whenever possible if you want people to feel good around you. 5. Be affable and knowledgeable The stereotype content model, which holds that people evaluate others based on their friendliness and competence, was put out by psychologists from Princeton University and their colleagues. People will feel like they can trust you if you can project a warm, non-competitive, and friendly image of yourself, according to the model. They are more likely to appreciate you if you come out as competent, as they could if you have a high level of education or wealth. Particularly in professional contexts, Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy advises that warmth should come across before skill. From an evolutionary standpoint, it is more essential for our survival to determine whether a person earns our confidence, claims Cuddy in her book Presence. 6. Periodically admit your flaws. People will like you more after you make a mistake, according to the pratfall effect, but only if they think you are a competent person. Being imperfectly imperfect makes you more relatable and vulnerable to those around you. When he looked at how minor errors might alter perceived attraction, researcher Elliot Aronson from the University of Texas, Austin, initially uncovered this phenomena.He requested that male University of Minnesota students listen to tape recordings of test takers. The students gave individuals who performed well on the quiz but spilled coffee at the conclusion of the interview lower ratings for likability than those who performed well on the quiz but did not drop coffee or those who performed poorly on the quiz and spilled coffee. 7. Focus on common ideals A famous research by Theodore Newcomb found that people are more drawn to others who are like them. The similarity-attraction effect is what's behind this. In his study, Newcomb assessed the opinions of his participants toward touchy themes like politics and sex before placing them in a residence owned by the University of Michigan to live together. When their housemates exhibited comparable opinions toward the topics studied at the end of their stay, the participants grew to like them more. It's interesting to note that a more recent study by scientists at the University of Virginia and Washington University in St. Louis discovered that recruits to the Air Force liked each other more when they shared negative personality traits than when they did favourable ones. (8) Gently touch them When you touch someone so subtly that they hardly perceive it, that is subliminal touching. For instance, stroking someone's arm or tapping their back can make them feel more kindly toward you. Young guys talked to ladies who were walking by while standing on street corners in a French study. When the males conversed with the women while lightly touching their arms as opposed to doing nothing at all, they were twice as likely to succeed in starting a discussion. In an experiment conducted by the University of Mississippi and Rhodes College, some servers briefly touched clients' hands or shoulders as they were handing back their change in order to study the impact of interpersonal touch on restaurant tipping. It turned out that the waitresses got much bigger tips than the ones who didn't interact with the customers. 9. Smile In a University of Wyoming study, over 100 undergraduate women viewed photographs of another woman in one of four poses: smiling with the mouth open, smiling with the mouth closed, not smiling with the mouth open, or not smiling with the mouth closed. No matter where she was positioned in the picture, the woman appeared to be most appreciated when she was grinning. More recently, researchers at Stanford University and the University of Duisburg-Essen discovered that when an avatar smiled more, students who engaged with each other via avatars felt better about the interaction. Bonus: According to a different study, smiling when you first meet someone increases the likelihood that they'll remember you afterwards. 10. Consider how the other person wants to be perceived. People desire to be seen in a way that supports the ideas they have about who they are. The self-verification theory can be used to explain this phenomena. Whether our beliefs are positive or negative, we all look for confirmation. Participants with favourable and negative opinions of themselves were asked if they wished to interact with persons who had positive or negative opinions of them for a series of research at Stanford University and the University of Arizona. Positively self-aware individuals favoured admirers, but negatively self-aware participants preferred detractors. This might be the case because people like to communicate with people whose input is compatible with who they are. According to additional research, relationships with others are more harmonious when our views about ourselves and theirs are in alignment. That's probably because we feel understood, and understanding is a crucial part of closeness. 11. Let them in on a secret One of the strongest relationship-building strategies can be self-disclosure. College students were divided into pairs and instructed to spend 45 minutes getting to know one another as part of a study conducted by academics at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, the California Graduate School of Family Psychology, the University of California, Santa Cruz, and Arizona State University. Some student pairings were given a set of more probing and intimate questions by the experimenters. For instance, "How do you feel about your connection with your mother?" was one of the intermediate questions. Other pairs were given questions meant for small conversation. For instance, one query was "Which holiday is your favourite? Why?" The students who had asked progressively intimate questions during the trial felt significantly more connected to one another than the students who had only made casual talk. As you grow to know someone, you can use this method independently. For instance, you can progress from simple inquiries (such as what movie they just saw) to finding out about the people in their lives that matter the most to them. Someone is more likely to feel closer to you and want to confide in you in the future if you share sensitive information with them.