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Intriguing Worldwide Courting Rituals... Courting rituals are designed to bring two people closer to marriage. Looking at the customs from various cultures and different eras can provide fascinating insight into what brings two people together to make a family. The Inconsistent Path to Commitment… The history of courtship is filled with a melange of rituals and negotiations designed to appropriately bring two people into the most intimate relationship possible. These steps are especially necessary in cultures that have separated gender roles, because it's the only way that there can be extensive interaction with a potential partner. It's usually not about the individuals, though, and love, if it happens, is usually expected to grow after the two have been married. Courtship or Dating?... Courtship is defined as the act of wooing and getting to know someone who you intend to marry. Courtship is an older term with an end game of marriage versus dating which may be seen as a more casual act and not necessarily ending with a commitment. Courtship may include romance, traditional gestures based on cultural influences, and specific gender norms defined by the culture or religion of the couple. An Example of Arranged Courtship in Indonesia… One example of this is in some Muslim communities in Indonesia. A politician named Hidayat Nurwahid was introduced through a mutual friend to a divorcee, Diana Abbas Thalid, with the hope that the two would make a good match. They met exactly three more times over the next three weeks before announcing their engagement. Diana is quoted as saying "Maybe we'll get to know each other better when we're married." Romantic Courting… When marriages aren't arranged, there may still be some rules in place set forth by societal traditions pertaining to courtship. Courtship can be thought of as the dance couples do prior to marriage. Courting in China… In many areas in China, you would only agree to date someone who you'd consider marrying. You may be introduced to potential candidates in a group setting beforehand. There may also be strict behavioral rules according to your gender, such as the male should pay for the date, and the female shouldn't offer to pay. Doing so goes against the traditional courting traditions. PDA is also pretty uncommon in many areas in China as it is seen as a very serious, intimate, and private behavior. Courting in Russia… In traditional dating in Russia, men and women tend to have very specific gender roles and rules. This includes wanting to get married young, and men taking the lead when it comes to initiating dates. Men may also act very politely on dates and take extra care to try to impress the woman he is courting. Men may also bring gifts or an odd number of flowers to their date as a kind gesture. Dating attire also tends to be quite formal as well. Courting in The Philippines… Traditional courting in the Philippines begins with a man attempting to sweep a woman off of her feet once she agrees to let him court her. This includes, singing, bringing gifts, and finally getting the approval of her family. If he is successful, they can become a couple and make their way towards marriage. Modern courting still emphasizes the man's pursuit of person he is interested in. Family approval also remains a strong factor in the courting process. Setting Intentions… Many of the courtship rituals from cultures were simply created to let the other person, their family, and the community know of your intention to marry. The ways of doing this have changed over time and can be initiated by both women and men in some countries. In Japan and Korea, for example, women are the ones who buy chocolates for the men they're interested in… A traditional Irish custom is for single women to wear a claddagh ring with the heart pointing outward to show their availability, turning it around when they become engaged… A Tradition in Decline?... Sociologist has noted that courting traditions all over the world are being replaced by the practice of dating. At the same time, many women question the materialism and objectification that seems to be implicit in courting customs ranging from engagement rings to who pays for dinner. On the other hand, some conservative groups hope for a return of the rituals, and books like The Rules set out the new guidelines that many women expect from their suitors. Understanding Courtship… Regardless of the controversy, in the end it comes down to two people finding ways to show how much they want to make a commitment to each other. The best courtship ritual is the one that ends in a successful and happy marriage.